A masterful lover is skillful.
The skillful lover is a sexual and sensual artist.
The skillful lover is not merely relying on surface appearances and theatrics to create sexual attraction. Wild turn-on is a quality they command as a cultivated skill, not just a consequence of luck and chemistry.
From a steamy glance over coffee to a full-on sexual embrace, lovemaking is an artform to the skillful lover. In the same way a chef can create a delicious dinner night after night, the erotically skillful lover can create delicious intimacy night after night, year after year.
The skillful lover understands the exact ingredients that light a sexual fire—and it’s not what everyone has been led to believe. They know what all the fakery is trying to imitate, so they aren’t trying to imitate anything. They are the thing. With this understanding, the skillful lover can keep the sensual fires roaring at any age, with any body type, and under any circumstance.
Skillfulness is the key for anyone practicing a monogamous lifestyle. With it, sexual fire stays lit rather than flickers out. And lovemaking matures like a fine wine over time as a skillful couple becomes more subtly attuned to the nuances of their turn-on.
You know you are becoming a skillful lover when you possess the know-how to design the intimate relationship of your dreams. You are in command of sexual attraction. You know what’s missing when it fades and exactly how to get it back. You stop needing external stimuli and “newness” to ignite excitement. You have everything you need right where you are with the person you adore.
The point here is this: The skillful lover knows the secrets of how to make a relationship hot. They know it’s not through fat wallets and gravity-defying body parts. They do not give up when things cool off. They turn to their practice, pick up their fire-keeping tools, and spark a flame.
You’ll pick up these tools through the inspired embodiments you will learn about in the Alpha and Omega chapter.
The Spiritual Path of Intimate Relationship by Pierce & Winters